Peer Pressure

Thank you so much for tagging me, asic! She has a wonderfully diverse blog where she talks about her current obsessions, interests, favourites and more. Check it out here!

(I was tagged for this tag in the beginning of February. Sorry, asic!)

Rules

➼Link back to the creator {Random Thoughts of My Fandoms}
➼Provide a link to the person who tagged you {asic}
➼Answer all questions honestly.
➼Come up with 5 questions of your own. (4 have to be about peer pressure; 1 can be random and about whatever)
➼Tag at least 10 people and provide links to their blog, please no “you!”
➼Recommend at least 5 books or songs you see everywhere/are very popular that you’ve read or listened to.
➼Use the hashtag #peer pressure tag for easier visibility

Wow, looks like I’m going to be breaking a few rules for the first time (Sorry, Zoë!)

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Moving onto the questions!

1. Have you ever been pressured to do something that ended up having a positive effect?

I haven’t technically been pressured to do anything but I have been persuaded to go to certain gatherings and meet people. Most end up catastrophic but yes, some end up with positive outcomes, not a positive effect. I like it when the people I’m around ask me questions other than ‘How is school?’ or say “I haven’t seen you in so long! Remember me?‘ An event where that doesn’t happen is a very positive day.

2. How do you combat pressure?

I think it depends on the type of pressure and I owe all my treasure trove of pressure to school. So, I either complete the school work that’s weighing me down or if I have time to spare, I write, read, draw or listen to music.

3. If your friend was being pressured into something, how would you help them?

This is such a vague question. It depends on what they are being pressured into and by whom? Considering the present, I don’t have a lot of friends and the few I have are very easy going people and don’t seem to be under pressure. The only pressure that’s weighing us down is school, and that is something most students live with and have their own way of dealing with. If the friend in question was having a hard time learning a new concept or something, I would help them understand it.

4. Now, how do you think a person should combat pressure?

Again, I really think it depends on the person. Some find talking very liberating and it’s their way of easing pressure off their lives. Others like taking a break from life and spending a whole day indulged in hobbies and me time. And yet others find comfort in certain forms of art like singing or writing. I think all forms are good as long as they don’t harm the person and those around them.

5. If you could change one choice you made from being pressured into something, what would it be?

Haha, in most cases, it’s me who’s pressuring myself. The last choice I pressured myself into was sending a poem (a terrible one, but I secretly like it now because it has a fun memory attached to it) to a literary journal. I don’t know why I did it, I was feeling very reckless and it was 1 am. I posted it here when the same recklessness graced me with its presence! (The journal rejected it, obviously)

6. What do you think is the worst type of pressure a person could face? Any type of pressure qualifies!

The pressure to meet expectations. I’m not saying it’s completely bad but it seems to be more powerful in hurting people than other types of pressure.

7. Have you ever felt pressure while blogging?

Haha, no! I was writing before I started blogging, so I don’t feel too pressured to sit down or have no need to force myself to write something for this blog alone. I have never done that and hope I don’t, because that kills what writing means to me. Scheduling posts help too. Now that I’m in grade 12, I don’t spend as much time on my blog as I used to and scheduling posts helps Random Specific Thoughts stay active and on schedule.

But a long hiatus is on it’s way sadly.

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8. This is kind of an open-ended question- do you think peer pressure is good or bad?

Both. It’s bad when people start hating themselves because they’re different from their peers. It’s good when it makes a person competitive (in a good way) and motivates them to work harder. I’ve been on both ends and I feel like one makes up for the other.

9. Song and book recommendations:

BOOKSSONGS
The Hate You Give | Angie ThomasBefore You Go // Lewis Capaldi
To Kill A Mockingbird | Harper LeeFalling // Harry Styles
Wonder | R.J PalacioHolding On // The Lumineers
A Wrinkle in Time | Madeline L’engleAfterglow // Ed Sheeran
Alice in Wonderland | Lewis CarrollWelcome to Wonderland // Anson Seabra
The Harry Potter series | J.K RowlingThe Circle Game // Joni Mitchell
Wuthering Heights | Emily Brontëexile // Taylor Swift
Becoming | Michelle ObamaOne More Light // Linkin Park

10. (Random Question)
Will you think about tagging me for another tag(say yes for brownie points!)?
Also, what do you think about pineapple on pizza?

(I believe I already have!)
I haven’t tried it. I’m not very fond of food and usually refrain from trying out new food combinations. I’m sorry but I think pineapple on pizza sounds wrong.


I tag:

Meg
Maggie
Shanessa
Moi Ana
Anna
Haley
Please feel free to do this tag if you find it interesting!
I’m passing on the same questions from asic’s post!

Thoughtfully yours,
Introverted Thoughts aka D

54 thoughts on “Peer Pressure

  1. Awesome job, D!! I really loved all your honest answers and perspectives, incredibly well done as always!!! Oh no on the coming-soon hiatus!! 😢I’ll miss you!! But this was really well done and I enjoyed reading!! Great recommendations too!!! Much love, friend 🖤🖤

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  2. The pressure of life can be overwhelming at any age, but being a senior in your final semester can be especially stressful. Your responses here, and managing school and a blog demonstrate your ability to manage pressures. Best wishes during your hiatus. 🌞

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  3. Whoa, cool!!
    I’ve never thought about peer pressure all that much- like, it just didn’t cross my mind. This post was a whole new level of “Oh, that’s d e e p”
    HIATUS NO AAAAAAAAAH

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  4. I agree. Pineapple on pizza is wrong. But if someone really likes it, I’m not going to stop them. You do you.

    I know the feeling of pressuring myself. That’s how it was when I was in school.

    The question about being pressured with a positive effect… that’s really interesting. The first thing that comes to mind happened when I was 13. I’ve mentioned in my blog before that I liked a girl named Rachelle that year, and our friend Paul found out and told everyone, even at least one teacher knew, and I was embarrassed… But a few months later, there was a trip for students who made honor roll all year, to an amusement park nearby. My mom put it in my mind from a young age that roller coasters were scary, because my mom doesn’t like roller coasters. This park has an old historic roller coaster built in the 1920s, I think. It goes pretty fast with lots of ups and downs, but it doesn’t go upside down because it’s made of wood and you can’t really do that. So on that day, I was hanging out with friends who kept trying to get me to go on that roller coaster, but I kept saying no, I’m afraid of roller coasters. Finally Paul said that Rachelle said that I could sit next to her if I went on the roller coaster with them. So I did… and I loved it… and Rachelle and Paul and everyone else went off and did their own thing for the rest of the day, and I just kept riding that roller coaster until the park closed, about six more times. So if I hadn’t been pressured to go on the roller coaster, I never would have discovered how much I love roller coasters.

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  5. In light of this tag, I’m going to peer pressure you into eating pineapple pizza.
    Next time you have the choice, you HAVE to try pineapple pizza. Here’s the thing, there is no wrong thing to put on pizza. It’s your choice. But since a lot of people like pineapple pizza, it’s not really that weird. It’s like Olives or Sausages. You can eat olives on your spaghetti, and sausage on your in your casserole, but also on pizza. Same with pineapple.
    So really, it’s not that weird. It’s really good actually. I like it. It adds that little kick of flavor to the pizza.
    Try it sometime, you’ll be surprised!

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  6. Thank you so much, Ace!! That’s so kind of you to say! Aw..yeah, it’s coming soon. I’ll miss you and everybody else on here, it’s not going to be easy🙁
    I’m so glad to hear that! Much love to you too! ✨

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  7. Aw..haha! I think it’s mostly because I’m not very keen on food in general, so I usually stay away from novel combinations and recipes. I’d survive on bread alone if I was allowed 😂
    I absolutely wouldn’t judge anyone for liking that! I’m glad you like it too! I can’t promise you but I might just end up doing that if I feel reckless enough 😂 I sure hope it will!
    Thank you so much for reading! Do you mind if I tag you too?

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  8. I agree! As a friend just pointed out below, there’s no wrong thing to put on pizza, just different preferences.

    Ahh, yeah, it’s not the best but it does get things done; so.itsy effective in a sense.

    Oof, that must have been hard at 13. Wow, a rollercoaster built in the 1920s sounds incredible and scary at the same time. Aw.. I’m glad your friends managed to get you on it! That’s a lovely experience! Thank you so much for sharing!

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  9. Wow, thank you! It’s okay as long as it’s a fun way to get you to start working harder. I was fortunate enough to have a good friend or two who maintained a healthy competitive spirit 😉 I’m glad you think so! Thank you so much for reading!
    Please feel free to do this tag if you’re interested! I can tag you!

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  10. Yeah… I know… if I’m going to have unhealthy coping mechanisms to deal with my feelings of inadequacy and low-self esteem, pushing myself to excel in school is a much better unhealthy coping mechanism than, say, drugs.

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  11. That’s good. It’s not good to work yourself so hard that you’re miserable, especially when that isn’t accompanied by a specific goal. Nor should one’s identity be completely wrapped up in school success. But there are a lot of great reasons to make the effort to do well in school.

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  12. No problem! Dumb question… I don’t remember things like how old you are or what country you’re in or what you’re doing for school… what level of school are you in, and what is your educational goal?

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  13. Nice post!!! Wuthering heights is that book for me, for which I have the physical copy, but can’t bring myself to read it.

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  14. Haha, it’s totally fine! I’m 17 and in grade 12, so it’s the last year of school. I’m leaning towards Engineering right now, still exploring all the different fields. I know I want something Science but I’m not so sure as to what I might enjoy the most.

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  15. Got it! It’s good to keep your options open, you don’t have to decide right away, although I know the earlier to do decide, the easier it is to make plans and be done on time. I had a lot of people ask me when I was your age why I didn’t study engineering… honestly I think it’s because I grew up very sheltered in the kind of place that doesn’t really have a lot of high paying jobs, and I didn’t really know what engineering was :\

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  16. I agree! I have my focus on a few but I don’t want to settle on anything just yet.
    I’m so grateful for the Internet. But a lot of people pursue Engineering here so it wasn’t totay unheard of anyway.
    I’m not the best at Maths or Science 😂 but Engineering seems fascinating (certain fields). Oh well, let’s see how it all turns out!🤦😂

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  17. Ooh, nice tag! I don’t think I’ve been peer pressured to do anything, except for watching a horror movie, and going in to a haunted house 😂 I still regret it.
    Great post!!
    (And I agree with dwiamond’s comment)

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  18. Each aspect of this blog post was very well written and analysed.

    I simply loved how you made it VERY clear that all the pressure in your life stems from school 😂

    Moreover, all the best for your boards (isn’t that what the aforementioned hiatus is in relation to?)

    …and thank you so so much, D, for tagging me. Coming from a writer as introspective as you, it means a lot. So THANK YOUU!!✨

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  19. This is a great topic. The most serious pressuring is when someone or a group attempts to challenge your boundaries. To hear “no” feels like rejection for some people, particularly the immature. “No” still needs to be said. Although uncomfortable, a challenge to your principles and values only becomes more intense if you go along with others. It is not my responsibility to make someone feel comfortable about my boundary setting. It is their immaturity that casues their discomfort, not my lack of explanation.

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  20. Thoughtful answers, D! I loved reading your perspective here!!

    I just finished reading Wonder, like a day back… it is so amazing!! I can not get over it!!
    Anywho, amazing post, D, as always ❤

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  21. This was so cool man, thanks for doing it hehe. I loved reading your answers- they make so much sense haha, ❤ Linkin Park's music is just so good, i always listen to them when I'm in my feels hehe

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  22. Thanks so much, Ana! That’s so kind of you to say!

    Oops😂 I love learning but school seems to have too many deadlines for it to be fun. It’s funny though, I know I’m going to miss school; pressure and all when I graduate.

    Aw.. thank you very much! The boards and possibly a few other exams too!

    My pleasure, Ana!! There’s an Anna here too😂 and I apologize for misspelling your name at first. Aw.. you’re too kind! I do learn from the best 😉
    It was my absolute pleasure!!❤️

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  23. Absolutely, it’s an upcoming subject and very relatable to most.
    “Although uncomfortable, a challenge to your principles and values only becomes more intense if you go along with others.” I absolutely agree unless the said boundaries are meant to be challenged.
    Thank you so much for reading and sharing your views!

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  24. Thank you so much, Rishika! So happy you did!

    That’s great! Aw..I know, right? You should read the companion books too! I especially felt touched by the one from Via’s point of view.
    So lovely of you to say! Thank you, again!❤️❤️

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  25. 🤗❤️❤️

    Yesss.. Via’s point of view was so heartfelt. And the way the whole story was pieced together.. I just love it!!
    Yes, I definitely will, thank you, D 🤗💓💓

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  26. Interesting tag! You’re so mature and I love it. I still fall prey to peer pressure and I’m nearly thirty… so I tend to avoid it by keeping a small circle and avoiding events that I know don’t go well with my values. My colleagues are all heavy drinkers and smokers, so that often means never joining them for much.

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  27. It sure was! Aw.. thank you!😂💕 Oof, I don’t think it’s something that’s going to go away with age though. That’s a good strategy! But, I feel like we’re often thrust into a large circle of people for work purposes. Goodness, that’s not good. I’m glad you don’t join them much but I hope they abandon those habits soon.
    Thank you so much for taking the time to read and share your thoughts!

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